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Pages read out when around a person involved in that memory is around- then tucked away safely until your next meeting ----- Omg... do you remember when.... ---- kind of scenario comes out.
A memory could be twigged by a song, a smell, a particular scene, or food.
Of course not all memories are made for us to want to remember... and of course its the memories we dont want to remember that we remember often...
Good memories are like little treasures in our hearts.. I have plenty..
I can remember memories that make me giggle and smile, and memories that make me cry... Not so cry because I am hurting but cry because I miss somebody so much -- because they have left this earth...
I don't know but I will always remember myself as this wee spring chicken the whole age of 5 years old, sitting on the field - right down the very end where it joined another public cricket patch - underneath an acorn tree... It was a nice sunny day, and I was sitting cross legged with my friends.. I think there were only 4 of us - when one of the boys told me he was going to marry me and I was going to have his children........
Its funny to think why on earth I remember such a memory - but I think about it and I smile. I know that boy is still around and he happily has a girlfriend and we had a great friendship up until around 16 when he left high school and carried on with his life...
Memories make us who we are today. Treasure them - because we cant turn back time..
I miss people I have shared particular memories with - but it is life.
So take a little time to smile and remember things you have done - embrace them and continue to make more memories in your wee book...
- Mood:
cheerful
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realise is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Our life revolves around friendships. Friendships with family, friends, work collegues, associates, friend's relatives etc. It is one of the most important part of our lives. Without friends we would be nothing, we would know nobody, we would be but one person alone in a the world, with nothing to look forward too. Nobody to share your secrets with and nobody to talk too.
As you grow into yourself as person, you realise some people you classified as friends, are anything but that. This is part of growing up, and you leave some friends behind. It is a sad fact of life. You need to surround yourself with different people at that certain stage of life.
Whether it be a career change, or going off travelling, you generally will surround yourself with people who themselves share along the same kind of goals as you.
Of course you can remain friends with only those friends who understand. The friends who don't understand are infact no longer a friend.
You continue to figure out who your friends are every single day. A friend you had one day - may not be your friend the next day - whether it be through disagreement or moving on. Unfortunately you cannot stop somebody from doing something they want to do, you can offer your opinion but dont be offended if they dont take it. This can be a make or break moment in friendships.
When a guy comes along or vice versa again things change within friendships. Unfortunately you may find that your friends sole focus becomes that one person they are sharing there life with in a different way to your friendships and that you get left behind. These friends are indeed not friends but people working in ways to use people to advance themselves in their own little world.
It can hurt to lose a friend to the opposite sex, but again a make or break moment to find out who that friend truely is. People who give up their friends for their new partner have no hope in life. They will continously hurt people, who wont forgive them (for fear of it happening again - because it will) and continue in this circle their whole life. It also shows their insecurity within themselves.
Unfortunately we cannot change people, and as we grow we find out who our true friends are. I know I have and although I know alot of people there is only a small group of people in this world I would consider friends. They are the ones that I dont have to talk to every day but have a catch up every now and then. They may live and island away from me, but we both know that we will always be there for each other in times of need. It makes that friendship more special, and valued.
One thing a friendship must have is respect, sadly no respect = not a true friend.
So as you go through life and figure out who your true friends are - remember the ones that matter not the ones who dont.
- Mood: content
It has been forever since I have blogged, and in fact I had forgotten my username and what website I used it had been that long. It is funny giggling at my older posts, and I would hope that I am more the wiser.
However, I still am experiencing life, and all its fun and games that go along with it.
So saying Goodbye - or more so not saying goodbye. Letting go of somebody you care about and not letting them know the truth has to be the hardest thing yet.
Eleven Years Friendship down the drain. One of the most important guys in my life - gone.
Well you know he is still around, yet I have to let go. Not because I really want to, but because I don't know what to do. It is a complicated situation and one I wish I had never stepped into. But I guess life is teaching me something... that something I hope I will eventually know!
I believe that in almost every situation the truth eventually comes out. In this situation I am taking the buck for somebody else, yet losing somebody in the process. Leaves me feeling worser off. It is complicated, so I guess that is why I have left it.
Not only have I lost a friend, and kinda felt used, I have learnt the friend whom I have lost true colours.
From what he was told, he immediately slagged me off behind my back. Has never contacted me or asked me straight up what happened. Again I keep thinking the truth will eventually come out and he will feel like a fool. And I am better off without that negativity.
The question I ask - have you had to let go of somebody you care about, without being the one in the wrong?
I am finding it hard to say the least. A friend is a friend and I hold them dearly to me. I suppose with every day stepping myself further into adult hood I am realising people around me may not be who they truely are.
On the assumption that I did wrong, I was immediately back stabbed by that person I care about. It is funny how quickly they switch on the assumption.
For me this is just another bump in the road - another lesson learnt and another friend lost.
We have to continue living, and learn off that friendship. And when they come running back - I will turn my back. Unfortunately back stabbing me immediately on another assumption, and we are taking hateful hurtful words, is no friend of mine.
At the end of the day - he never got what he wanted, and well now he never will.
So to end this one, it will be a bye. There is no good in good bye.
- Mood:creative
Home is where the heart is...
It's where we spent most of our time growing up, or the place which moulded us the most.
It's that one place we know we can go back to if we need to find our feet or rebalance our lifes...
It's where the friends you made for life are probably still there, and there seem to be more happy memories than bad ones..
Life leads us in many directions and I know that I can always return home...
Its the one place that I know comforts me, it'll bring me back to my feet to go and make new adventures:)
Do you have a place you call home?
It's always good to return home........ :)
As G'n'R told us - Every Rose has it's thorn...
Thats how they are mean't to be - but how about a reflection of this on our life.. So for us girls its for every nice guy there is an arsehole waiting to meet. Or vice versa.
So well, where on earth are my ROSES ... all I've met are thorns. Is this just pure luck or life just telling me thats all you're getting.
Of course, we hope that in the future this isn't the end. We must go through our fair share of arseholes before we meet the 'one' - does the ONE truely exsist though?
I hate to think that we go through life searching for that person, only to find true reality they arent actually there. Then you look back at life and wonder what that particular ex is up to - the one who touched your heart the most - yet you were a fool to let them go.
What you must know is that what you have with one person you generally wont get with the next. So don't expect it. Guarantee that you won't.
That one person who touched you deeper than anybody else will remain within your heart for sometime, and yet no person will ever compare to them...
So i ask... give me a god dam rose cause I am sick of the thorns..:)
- Mood:
flirty
Friendships! We all have them... whether you just have a small group or a large group of friends it doesn't matter... For me, I believe having those few close friends instead of having so many that you can't actually keep track of them.
So friendships apply on many different levels - you have the friends you have known years (basically your entire life), you have your friends that you have known for a shorter period of time, the friends who you speak to now and then, guy friends and girl friends, friends you have meet through another friend, friends you once upon a time dated, friends that live on the other side of the world, the list is continuous!
I find myself to be very very blessed with amazing friends. During my time I've lost friends, we all go along our paths, it's not that we are forgotten to them its that we no longer fit in where they are going.... and you wonder were they truely your friend anyway... probably not. More like an acquaintance that made a presence in your life for a short while.
Figuring out who are friends and who are acquaintances happen over time. Treasure each and every person in your life, because we never know when they are going to leave.
My friends are my world - there is pretty much nothing I wouldnt do for them.
I'll be there to catch there falling tears, to pick them up from their arse after they have fallen over, to redirect them back to their path, to make them smile, to hug them, to let them know that even though life can be a right pain in the royal arse that I'm still there... that I will always be there.
Friends play an important part in your life - some you can tell everything too, some you can't. There are times that you disagree with their advice, but just remember that is what their opinion is, love them because although you disagree they are just trying to help.
Like anything that is 'living' sometimes friends can be lost tragically. (R.I.P Maya Deoki, Sharne Tweedie and Tara Groenestein - Everyday I miss you, everyday I remember you and everyday I wish you all were still here). Its that sudden realisation of how important that person was to you, and how much you miss them. But it also makes you treasure your other friends more. Just don't forget the ones you have lost... they are still around us... and we are often reminded of them.
Friends are all uniquely special...
Love them all and make sure at the time they know you are thinking of them, you miss them or you love them..
Keep them close, because we never really know when a friendship might be lost..
Have you ever spent a moment in time looking upon your life and wondering why certain things happened to you? It's one of those things that happens to the best of us..
You wonder why things continuously go wrong? Why they didn't work out? And continuously analyze every step you took..
What would you do differently? What would you change if you could?
The one thing that I think causes the hardest problem is to learn to accept yourself as who you are, not what others think of you. Of course I say that wishing that sometimes I could listen to my own words of wisdom.
Why do we let what others' think or say affect what we think of ourselves?
Again this happens to nearly everybody....
Why do we depend on people to see the changes like hair colour or weight loss or a new lipstick? And if they don't notice it's like we have failed? Like we seek acceptance of others, instead of accepting ourselves as who we are..
Acceptance of ourselves is something that we constantly battle for through out our lifes. There is always something that just isn't quite right. Something that you are unhappy with and want to change.
One lesson learnt, is only change it for yourself. If you start changing yourself just to satisfy somebody else - chances are that person is not going to notice the changes - then that will result in a crumble for you.
It's hard to stop seeking other people's acceptance of your life, what you do, and the fact that there are so many materialistic people out there likelihood is you will never be quite up to their standard..
How much money you have or earn doesnt mean shit....
As you get older, and hopefully more wiser, you will always look back at somethings that you did and wish you could change it back to how you wish it was now..
If somebody or something means alot to you, don't lose it, don't let it slip from your fingers. Grasp it with your hands and don't let it go. It's something that should be treasured for life, laugh and enjoy it... because it can all change in seconds.
Most of all make your decisions, based on what your heart tells you...
Don't live with regrets, and remember you are who you are, and smile..
If somebody forgets you, weep, if they mean that much to you, fight for it...
If you end up fighting a losing battle, again weep.. but let that person free. Hope that one day they might come back to you.. But then again if they don't understand or they allow you to disappear into non-existence then are they really worth the battle..
Life can be a cruel, bumpy but surreal path..
Make the most of it, and turn those negatives into positives..
You never know what might be just around the corner..
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thoughtful
